Men and their thoughts...pfff!

I’ve read my share of dating advice columns and books, and the two things that stand out the most are the fact that men don’t want an available girl and they don’t want the relationship defined. These two things confuse the heck out of me. Let’s maybe dig into these and see what is going on…

First of all, Men don’t want a girl who is available. Let’s think about this for a second…if they aren’t available, how are they ever going to get the girl? Do they want a girl that already has a guy? If that’s the case I’m pretty sure it says in the man handbook that that is against all rules of man. So that’s not right. So maybe it means that they don’t want a girl that calls or can always do something? And well see, that doesn’t make sense either because if they really wanted the girl, then wouldn’t they want to see her and spend time with her? So maybe it means they don’t want a girl who needs them or wants to be with them. No, no, that doesn’t work either because what’s the point of wanted something that doesn’t want you back? Nope, still confusing…

Second, what do they mean they don’t want to define the relationship? Do they just want to be friends with benefits because that is not a good situation because then you can get caught up in physical things that lead to heartache and the Clapp. Do they just want to let the girl hang there while they figure stuff out? That’s way unfair to the girl because she deserves someone that wants her and needs her back. Do they want a relationship with no expectations or boundaries? Because that doesn’t work either because then its not really a real relationship.

I guess maybe what they mean by these things is that they don’t want a whining and needy girl and they don’t want to be reminded all the time about what their relationship is because it ruins the fun of the relationship and you spend more of your time talking about what your deal is rather than just being with each other. And it is about the chase and what you can “get.”

Well, if this is the case, guys, let me fill you in on something. Women don’t do these things. And if they do, maybe they aren’t the woman for you. We don’t want a needy and whiny guy. We don’t want to constantly be talking about what relationships really mean. Perhaps with our girlfriends, but not to you. So whoever is writing these self-help dating books and articles, I’ll let you in on a little secret – free of charge! When you find someone that is interested in you and you’re interested back. Take if for what its worth and have fun seeing why God has placed this person in your life. If it comes to the point of talking about what you are – talk about it and get it ALL out in the open. Then when you have questions later, they might have been answered already, or, you’ll already feel free to talk about it. As for the chase…it is nice to have a chase, but only when you know where they other’s heart is at. Granted I’m not relationship expert, but that’s just a little tip from me to you!